Change Is Inevitable
It has been over a year since I’ve written a blog post for my site. My plan has always been to write weekly, but I struggled to come up with something to talk about. Before long, I couldn’t pick from among the myriad things that were on my mind and in my life. In looking back over the last year, I am blown away by how different things are.
In the last year, my best friend moved to another state. We lost our sweet beagle, Luna Bean, but our cat Ruby has gotten way healthier than we ever thought she’d be. Our niblets have continued to grow up and away from us, but we have grown closer to my mom. We lost my aunt, who was my godmother. I reconnected with my cousins on both sides of my family, as well as some high school and college friends whom I’d lost touch with outside of social media. Other friendships have shifted—some becoming stronger, others becoming less a part of my life—and I’ve made some new ones. I’ve learned so much about myself, about my relationship, and about my connections to spirit. My Reiki practice has continued to grow, and I expanded into my own space, which has allowed me to achieve my dream of having a crystal shop and my own treatment space that’s big enough for doing classes and workshops.
I always found change uncomfortable, good or bad. I have stayed in the most uncomfortable—even untenable—situations to avoid the unknown (or the known grief) that change would bring. I’ve been in jobs, relationships, friendships, conversations, arguments, social situations, physical positions, and mindsets too long, either because I did not know how to get out of them, because I did not want to do the work to get out of them, because I felt guilty, because I was afraid of what might happen if I shifted, or because of some combination of those things. Over time I have learned: if you don’t change, change will come for you. We cannot hold time still, and the passing of time always brings shifts—it’s impossible to avoid—but it’s better to take opportunities to have change on your own terms and through your own agency rather than because someone else or someONE/THING else decided for you.
If you are not moving in alignment with your highest good, the universe will make sure you get some nudges in the right direction. If you are holding on too tight and not resting in the flow of your path, you will experience far more turbulence and trouble than if you relax and allow. Holding and grasping bring suffering. Being in the flow of your path brings ease.
You can’t stop change, and resisting it stops your peace. Sometimes things might move too fast for your comfort, but that usually means that you are moving in alignment: better to let go and enjoy the ride.
(Originally published May 10, 2023.)